When I Quit Social Media: Dear Phone
For week two of quitting social media , I wanted to get to the bottom of why I started hating Social Media for some reason.
I think it was because I was following too many people to keep up with and it was getting too overwhelming for me.
I have therefore gone through each social media platform and unfollowed everyone that I didn’t find was adding value to me in anyway.
I know this has meant I have been on Instagram and Twitter but I haven’t engaged or scrolled my feed.
I literally just went on to complete that task and then logged off. It didn’t take me any longer than 10 minutes to accomplish what I wanted to on my social media sites.
Hopefully, when I next go on social media (after my month is over) my feed will be so much more valuable to me.
When I Quit Social Media: Dear Phone Week 2
Instead of writing another diary post of what I learnt of my week, I thought I would write down my thoughts as a letter to my phone.
Dear Phones, (old and new),
I remember the black and white, tiny squared screen where I’d play snake when waiting for my mum to pick me up from school.
I’d text my friends what time they’d be jumping onto msn to continue our pointless conversations on there (even though I would’ve spent the whole school day with them).
From the brick to the slider, they were merely a tool to text and phone people. At 5p a text, it was impossible to do that all day because mum would freak out if I’d run out of credit in the first week.
There wasn’t even a need to go on the internet as it took a decade to log on.
Then the Apple phone came out and all Mr Big Shot with it’s scrolling features, coloured bold screen and quirky keypad all available with the touch of your finger tips.
With its capabilities of accessing the internet with WIFI and 3G, it gave us the ability to be connected to the world 24/7.
I loved having a camera that took random photos of my day, keeping up to date with friends and the ability to ‘google’ anything that you may need to find the answer to at the drop of a hat.
If I want a pub trip spontaneously, on a Friday night, there’s nothing a quick group chat text won’t fix.
However, as with all the good aspects there are some bad aspects of you, the need to check you a million times a day because you’ve vibrated in my pocket-why are you so goddam demanding?
It is distracting and probably affects my productivity more than you and I know.
There is a reason why I have to put you on do not disturb. I can’t take the constant nagging and reminders that you constantly have to flash up onto your home screen.
Maybe if you weren’t so noisy you could be used in any quiet zone, no headphones needed.
You have helped with always having a camera at the palm of my hand no matter what the situation, but that means the joys of living in the moment have become slim to none.
There’s not much that I won’t document for future “memories” because it’s become so much easier to share everything onto social media 24/7.
I went against that in Rhodes and watched the sunrise without you-I would say “sorry about that” but I’m not.
That need to be connected to everyone all the time makes you care more about what other people think of you.
With that comes the dangerous comparison loop of wishing your life was like that amazing Instagram influencer or wishing you were having babies and getting married like some of my “Facebook friends”.
It’s about time I disconnect from this “phone-ship” (phone relationship) and return to my own reality rather than living in a virtual one.
I have been able to distract myself with creating content I love, producing artwork and planning for future blog posts in my handy bullet journal; with absolutely no help from you.
I have felt a weight lifted without consuming so much content from other people and now have been able to find my own way back from my creative slump.
In the future, I think I should let you know that I will be putting a time limit on the amount of hours I spend on you.
I don’t need to be on my phone for more than 1 hour max per day; which is such an improvement from the 4 hours that you stole from me previously.
That’s just how it’s going to be from now on.
All the best,
P.S sorry not sorry
I have loved the second week of no social media, it has made me create and be more productive; resulting in more blog posts and not looking at my phone so much. Having the social media sights off my phone and computer have also helped me not to check them 24/7 meaning I can do work without any interruptions.
I’ve also been creating content for my Instagram for my return which I have loved and as A Branch of Holly suggests that you should be creating more than you are consuming, this social media detox has allowed me to do just that.
I am excited to get back on social media but for now I love being able to just concentrate on the things that I enjoy rather than worrying about what other people will think about what I create.
The comparison loop has completed vanished and it has made me less worried about the type of content I produce. I’m just listening to my own ideas and not being influenced by what other people are up to. And it feels amazing.